Saturday, January 13, 2018

A Woman in her Thirties Resolves, 2018

It's halfway through January, but I'm already hard at work on my 2018 resolutions. I always find it interesting how many people hate-- I mean HATE-- New Year's Resolutions (or maybe they are just being melodramatic on Facebook...). Either way, I love making resolutions and I love keeping them and a woman in her thirties does what she loves.

Know what else I love? BEING WARM. January in Minnesota... you kill me. Literally.

After a fairly craptastic December, work-wise, I did a lot of reflecting about my job and how I do it. I won't bore you with the details, but here's the conclusion I came to: as a contracted, self-employed woman at a woman-run start up doing a job no one else in the company does, I have a lot of power when it comes to how I do my job. That is a gift (and also a pressure) of epic proportions. So my first resolution is to work smarter, not harder. I have my entire work-year mapped out, complete with days completely blocked off for me to work on some 'big picture' things that always seem to fall off the radar when you're bogged down in day-to-day stuff. I also have an assistant (yeah!) who is super into doing some stuff that I'm not good at, aka technology.

So I'm feeling pretty excited about this year, work-wise.

Remember how my word of the year last year was 'No'? Well, this year my word is LESS. What do I mean by less? Here's what I mean:


  • Less stuff. Time to do some serious purging, donating, and re-organizing. Nothing is coming in without something going out this year. Less food, less toys, less silly excess. Less, less, STUFF. 
  • Less multi-tasking. You know how, as women, we balance 1000 things at the same time? I am a master at that. I could teach doctorate-level courses on the art of doing 1000 things at the same time. But it really sucks, and it keeps my stress levels in the red zone. So I'm going to be reeeeeally intentional about not multi-tasking. (This is going to be very difficult for me. I know.)
  • Less outrage. You know how we live in some pretty tumultuous times? I've been reflecting on that A LOT lately, with the help of some really enlightening books and several billion Facebook posts from my community at large. I am an empath, I feel things very deeply, and when things are, well, as they are, it greatly disturbs me. It's a hard balance because I want to be informed, but I don't want to be informed by people who are not informed. Does that make sense? So this year, when things happen (as they've happened all damn year) I'm going to channel my inner Atticus and calmly focus on what I can do make the world a little tiny bit better. 
And hey, some big stuff is happening this year. I'm turning 40- YEAH! And L and I are celebrating our 10-year wedding anniversary in September. I used to fantasize about what my life would look like at this age, what my kids would look like, what my career would look like, what my marriage would look like, but never in my wildest dreams did I think it would look this awesome. 


So, 2018 is a year of serious celebration. I think what I've discovered this decade is that celebrations look very different for different people, and I want MY celebrations to be deliberate, intimate, and far-reaching. I couldn't want for more. So my final resolution is to celebrate all I've worked hard for and been blessed with and PAY THAT SH$T FORWARD. 

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